Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Signs You’re Not Ready For A Relationship...




Saw this interesting article tt i wanna share with u...
(http://lifestyle.xin.msn.com/en/sex-relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5305197)

Rem to love yourself first before anyone can love u...♥

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Signs you’re not ready for a relationship

"Are you ready to settle down or still fearful of the responsibilities of a serious relationship?


Dumped by your ex and think you're ready for the next fling? You're probably not. Check out these sure-fire signs that say you're better off staying single for now...

You want to make your ex jealous
You know you've fully let go when you can think about your ex with neutrality. But do you 'invent' a boyfriend or pretend to have one in hopes of making him jealous? While it's healthy to vent your anger, if you think there's a need to make your ex jealous, to him you're just a needy person who's still dwelling on the past. We know breakups can be hard to do. But when you let that pain linger for too long, it'll do you no good. If you're still mired in your past relationship, chances are, you're not ready for a new one yet.

You still think about your ex every day
You still keep his mementoes with you and you feel disgruntled that he left you in the past. In efforts to make him regret for dumping you, you plot various actions or trash talk him on Facebook. But letting go means not making your ex the centre of your life. You're officially ready for a real relationship when you're totally over your old flame -- that's when you stop wasting your time engrossed in anything related to your ex.

You're not happy with yourself
Do you have self-acceptance issues? Obviously, you're not ready for a relationship until you're happy with yourself. If you can't accept for who you are, how would your future partner love you? Confidence is a huge attraction to the opposite sex. So, if you show lack of self-esteem, you're never going to move forward. Potential dates are going to avoid you.

You're looking for a rebound guy/girl
After splitting with your partner, you seek for instant gratification by rushing into the next attractive person as a replacement. As painful as a breakup is, a rebound fling is not going to cure your lovelorn heart. While having a stand-in for your bitterness can fill the void temporarily, it won't be long until you realise that it can never solve problems from your past relationships.

You're rushing into getting one
You're never single and you're always in a relationship because you feel insecure being alone. The quicker you jump back in the water to get a new partner, the greater the odds are that he won't be the genuine love of your life. And you'd rather be single than being with someone whom you're not compatible with. Instead of wasting time on these pointless flings, focus on developing yourself, which would be more attractive to your potential dates.

You don't have time for one
You are too busy to date and you can never find time to go out because of your career. Relationships don't have to interfere with your career all the time, but if you choose to spend great deal of time and effort trying to accomplish your career goals instead of pursuing on relationships, it's probably best for you to go solo until you're satisfied with your accomplishments or when you think a relationship will not get in the way.

You always have the same relationship issue in the past
Did you cheat on your ex previously or engage in verbal brawls over the same issue? If all of your previous breakups were due to the same problem, you should never start a new relationship until you've figured out what went wrong. It pays to give yourself some time reflecting on yourself so that the same mistake will never be repeated again."

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