Lychees From Leechie: 9 Dating Red Flags

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

9 Dating Red Flags

I arrived during the lunch break of the wealth expo...so popped over to Joey Yap's booth...Joey alrdy went back to KL but his assistants were still around...i showed one of them my bazi chart...i was quite amused with one of his comments abt how i could have many boyfriends! lol...i might occasionally b surrounded by many guys but i dont have many boyfriends! Well, if i dont even have a single boyfriend to begin with, then how do i end up with many boyfriends? lol ;p

Anyway, some guys not only like girls...they like a lot of girls =.= Y r some guys so greedy? Some guys will nvr b satisfied with only one lady! To them, it's more of a case of "the more, the merrier"! =.=

Saw this interesting article here (http://sg.shoppinglifestyle.com/love/dating-red-flags/1900/1/)

"9 Dating Red Flags
Don't continue to date him if he does any of these...

He may seem like the perfect date. At first. But when the beer goggles wear off, turns out Prince Charming isn't so charming after all. If you see any of these dating red flags, think twice about letting yourself get too into him. He's not The One if...

1. It's all about him
It takes two to tango; it's the same way for convos. If he's literally monopolizing the talk and bragging how he's been there and done that, chances are that any relationship that you would have will be completely one-sided. Yes, he may be rattling on about his fascinating life story to impress you, but point is, he doesn't even bother to get to know you. That's not going to change.

2. He's distracted
This guy is perpetually connected. Throughout the date, he alternates his attention between you and his Blackberry, and that stupid Bluetooth never leaves his ear. Clearly, he doesn't have the courtesy to give you his undivided attention. Clearly, you should just disconnect him -- from your life.

3. He's a whiner
You barely went out together a couple of times, and he's already pouring out his sob stories to you? Red flag! Do you really want to hang out with a depressing bloke who's constantly ranting about his boss, talking bad about his ex and griping about life? Watch out -- if he badmouths an ex, he can badmouth you, too.

4. He's too vain
Just because he's good-looking, wears designer shirts, sports a Rolex, and has an expensive ride doesn't mean he is a good catch. Don't be fooled by his outward appearance -- all the blings he's flaunting only shows how frivolous he is with money. If he squanders his paycheck to feed his vanity, don't expect him to have any savings for the future. Remember, a man who is overly obsessed with himself and his material things has no room to value you.

5. He expects you to pay
Etiquette 101: It's chivalrous for a man to pay on the first date -- or at least go Dutch. If he's unwilling to flash his own cash but expects you to pick up the tab, he's either really stingy or really broke. And both aren't good signs.

6. He ogles at other women
Checking out other ladies while he's out with you is enough to send the alarm bells ringing, but if he goes even further and starts flirting with them, don't stick around to find out whether he gets lucky. A date who is keeping his options open and blatantly doing it in your face has zero respect for women. Even if you become his girlfriend, don't be surprised if he's not interested in being exclusive. Do yourself a favor and drop this creep like a ton of bricks.

7. He's pushing you to go further
Whether he expects you to sleep with him before you're ready or he's trying to up the commitment stakes way before it's acceptable, any guy who's making you feel this uncomfortable clearly doesn't respect your feelings.

8. He makes all the decisions for you
He calls the shots on what to do, where to go, what movies to watch on dates. He even tells the waiter "we'll have two steaks, medium rare" -- without consulting you. These are all signs that he's got a controlling nature. If he wants to take charge all the time, think twice about getting involved -- especially if you value your independence.

9. He asks you out last minute
Be careful if he calls you for a get-together on the day itself, or a day before. You aren't a priority if you aren't on his calendar at least several days beforehand. If he really respects you, he'll arrange a date several days in advance. Don't put up with it. You're not some last-resort option just because he's got nothing better to do for the evening."

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An interesting article on yahoo (http://sg.news.yahoo.com/photos/6-mistakes-men-always-make-in-a-relationship-slideshow/relationship-photo-1346645133.html#crsl=%252Fphotos%252F6-mistakes-men-always-make-in-a-relationship-slideshow%252Frelationship-photo-1346645133.html)

"6 Mistakes men always make in a relationship
As men, we are prone to committing some typical relationship blunders.This might seem like a very generalist statement to make but some degree of stupidity is coded in our DNA, particularly when it comes to handling women. Most of us don’t even realize that some seemingly trivial mannerisms of ours can weaken our relationships. So, ditch your ego for a few minutes and read ahead about the kind of relationship mistakes most of us are prone to making:

1. Making her feel jealous or insecure
You might talk about your ex-girlfriends or women colleagues who hit upon you to be honest but this can often induce a sense of insecurity within your girlfriend. To a certain extent, talking about such things isn't damaging. In fact, it represents you as a wanted man who is quite appreciated by the fairer sex. But beyond a certain point, it can make her jealous. She could start questioning the shelf-life of your relationship, considering you are almost always being lured by other women. Similarly, being too honest about any of her friends isn't the best thing to do. Be restrained in your poetic description of how good a dress looks on a party-scorcher. Similarly, glancing at other women in her presence will only make it more obvious that you have a roving eye and aren't the dependable type.

2. Not talking to her
This isn't about the daily chit-chat where you take an update about each other’s daily schedule or how things are progressing at the office. This is about having a heart-to-heart conversation where you should seem eager to hear her opinion. Most girls complain about their boyfriends being indifferent to their outlook. This can wedge a gap between you two. You need to be a good listener first to talk in a way that makes her feel connected. Sounding or looking bored when having a conversation with her is also a clear give-away that your mindsets don’t really match.

3. Letting it get regular
Women like to be surprised but men are by nature predictable and like to follow routines. Apart from a few, truly adventurous men, most of us are happy to visit the same hang-out zones and eateries, as if we are seeking some sort of safety. This mundane outlook can soon infect a woman’s mind like a virus, making her feel suffocated. This is why most women start looking-out even when committed in a relationship. Most of us are guilty of letting that surprise factor fade away and that includes the bedroom. A man with some degree of mystique has a greater chance of keep a relationship thriving and not just, alive.

4. Using selfish sex as a solution for everything
Yes, this is something that most guys would agree. We do tend to believe that as long as we are good in the bed or loaded with cash, any relationship problem will self-resolve. However, apart from a few insecure and really vulnerable women, this isn't the truth. If your lady is honestly in love with you, she will seek that soulful connection when having sex. When we try to use sex as a tool to solve problems, it becomes mechanical rather than being pleasurable. Further, many guys are clueless regarding what their women want in bed or they just don’t want to find out. Such a selfish bedroom perspective can be very damaging to a relationship.

5. Not making her feel special
Not complimenting her occasionally or gifting her besides the anniversaries, birthdays and Valentine’s Day celebrations makes it obvious that you appreciate her only for the sake of following traditions. Try to compliment her for the smallest things like the way she sips her tea or curls up her nose when angry.

6. Repeating the same mistakes
This is the last and perhaps, the most common relationship mistakes that men make, i.e. even after realizing the mistakes, they tend to repeat them! This can simply drive her crazy or make her feel helpless, stuck with a man who doesn’t give a damn about her. This could be the real ship-sinker for any relationship."

lol ;p