Came across this interesting article posted by a fren...it first appeared in Simply Her mag (http://divaasia.com/article/4650)
"A long-lasting happy marriage takes more than just understanding the needs of your spouse; it goes beyond mere acceptance of your spouse’s emotional and physiological makeup and learning to meet his or her needs.
After years of counselling married couples, American clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor Willard F. Harley, Jr concluded that the top five needs of men and women fell into 10 categories:
Her Top 5 Needs
1 Affection Women often associate affection with security, comfort, protection and approval. When a man shows his wife affection, he’s sending subliminal messages to her that he’ll take care of her, stand by her and protect her.
2 Conversations When women have intimate conversations with their spouse, it reassures them and make them feel loved and supported.
3 Honesty and openness A women needs to be able to trust her husband completely. When a man doesn’t maintain an honest, open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust.
4 Financial support Many women marry for the financial security their spouse provides.
5 Family commitment A woman needs her husband to be a good father and to be committed to the family.
His Top 5 Needs
1 Sexual fulfilment Most women can go without sex for months, but for men, it’s pure torture. In fact, they would probably do it all the time if they had their way.
2 Recreational companionship Even after marriage, couples should make an effort to involve themselves in their spouses’ activities.
3 An attractive spouse A man needs a wife who looks good to him.
4 Domestic support Most men like having domestic chores like cooking and cleaning done for them.
5 Admiration Men want their wives to be proud of them. So when you tell your husband that he’s wonderful, it motivates him to achieve more."
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Btw, leechie saw this phrases on my fren's msn status:
"我将于茫茫人海中寻找我唯一之灵魂伴侣,得之 我幸，不得 我命"
"幸福是靠自己去爭取的~不管是友情或愛情~~錯過了就沒有了..."
I got him to explain the first phrase for those of us who r not too familiar with chinese, the first phrase simply says tt he's looking for his one and only soulmate amongst the crowd...if he manages to find the One, then he's lucky...if otherwise, tt's his fate...
The first part of the 2nd phrase simply tells us tt our happiness is dependent on us!We gotta fight for our happines ya...doesn't matter if it's frendship or love...once u miz it, it's gone forever...o.O"
Check out this funny clip on a pretty korean school teacher...hang on for the surprise awaiting u ;p
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