In my humble opinion...dont think what i'm gonna say here will sit down well with some ppl...what i've learnt is that probs which can b solved by money aint probs...there r always superficial ppl around who try to get close to u (whether u r rich or not) n some of these superficial ppl come with ulterior motives...some juz wanna b seen with u...to be part of the hip n "in" crowd...mayb they r interested in ur connections or some really evil ones will try to prey on ur kindness to con n leech ur money...
It can b quite sad how alot of ppl like to make alot of unnecessary comparisons...i was having a discussion with some ladies n someone was lamenting abt how poor n sad her life is...i was telling my mum...someone seems to b jealous abt how i can have x amt of money (i readily admit that i'm poor n my money might b juz peanuts to many ppl) n she doesnt...but i have another fren who makes x amt of money easily in juz 1week...y bother comparing ur life with others when such superficial comparisons only bring nothing but misery to ur life? esp when u dont even understand the kind of stress n risk that others go thru to make that x amt of money in juz 1week?! instead of being jealous of rich ppl, y dont u think of more ways of how u can improve ur own life? n instead of hating the rich, wouldnt it be better to learn from them instead? one of my fav quotes: "Being born poor is not ur mistake but dying poor is ur mistake!" i dont wanna die poor, which is y i slog hard to get out of poverty! call me shallow, but i would rather die rich n beautiful! but that's juz me!
But the most pathetic type of ppl that i really sympathize r those who r not rich but pretend to be extremely rich...well, sg is an extremely small place where alot of info can b easily found out v.easily...what's the point of keeping up appearances when there is nothing but a can of worms? y pretend to b someone u r not? r u so ashamed of ur background n who u r that u have to spin a web of lies to cover up ur inferiority complex n to boost ur fragile self-esteem? anyway, i'll reveal more abt how to spot a fako wannabe from the real McCoy in a separate posting...Clarence is right...such pathetic ppl deserve our sympathy...but dont ever take my kindness as a weakness...i may look n sound like a bimbo at times...but it'll b ur mistake if u think i really have nothing between my ears...lol...sherrilyn says i shld put this as my status: "Frenz say i'm no bimbo as i outsmart some smart ass!" lol...
Humility is an asian virtue...Was at some souvenir shop at Lantau Island with my leechie mum, they had the mock lots-drawing thingy there...my mum drew a lot telling her to be more modest to gain more favour with others...i was telling her that i have some frenz who r v.scared of ppl looking down on them...n they try to say n buy stuff to keep up with the jones...lol...i think that's quite sad...i was quite amused to see this fren wearing small diamond rings on all her fingers...lol...i have great sympathy for those whose self-esteems r dependent on the brand of bags that they carry...lol...i always tell ppl that i'm a blue-collar worker...but most ppl refuse to believe me...lol...anyway, wearing an expensive watch doesnt make u any more atas than what comes outta ur mouth ;p a classy person will make a fako watch look real anyway...n vice versa ;p
i'm a real person...sorry if my opinions prick n make u feel uncomfortable ;p n what is this abt some prc bus drivers going on strike cos they think their wages r too low? i can imagine that if their wages r increased due to such pressure...then it would be the Malaysian drivers' turn to go on strike...then it would b a nvr-ending story...then mayb we will have to walk cos all the bus drivers r too busy with strikes?! i was commenting to our grp that we might as well go to sgx n have a strike cos our stock prices r too low?! Hottest topic of the day revolves around some muddy report...lol...mr. muddy's language was described as strong by the local broking community...well, i cant imagine any local anal-yst using such strong language in their anal-yst report...lol...
The yoga master asked his receptionist to sign me up for the yoga center's Xmas potluck dinner n to register me as bringing chicken rice. He really wanna poke fun of me. noob me wouldnt know how to prepare chicken rice...good thing that I changed it to jelly. Lol...Now my legs r also soft like jelly after 2 torture sessions =.= Jaslyn was saying that she lost 10 kg in 10 months at another yoga centre without any personal training! wow! no wonder the master says i'm fat =( i'm impressed by how she can do 6classes in a day...cos i can get cramps after only 2classes...n the max that i did was 3 consecutive classes...hot yoga is good for detoxing...i attended 4 parties within the space of a week before i left for Hong Kong =.= Michelle was wondering how come i put up this post instead of blogging abt my recent Hong Kong trip...well, it's much easier for me to write than to search thru the many pics i took ;p another prob that i'm currently facing now is that the hard disk on my laptop is full n i cant sync the pics in my iphone n camera onto my laptop...haiz...patience is a virtue ya...will try to post up some pics when i can find time ya...stay tuned ;p
i'm a real person...sorry if my opinions prick n make u feel uncomfortable ;p n what is this abt some prc bus drivers going on strike cos they think their wages r too low? i can imagine that if their wages r increased due to such pressure...then it would be the Malaysian drivers' turn to go on strike...then it would b a nvr-ending story...then mayb we will have to walk cos all the bus drivers r too busy with strikes?! i was commenting to our grp that we might as well go to sgx n have a strike cos our stock prices r too low?! Hottest topic of the day revolves around some muddy report...lol...mr. muddy's language was described as strong by the local broking community...well, i cant imagine any local anal-yst using such strong language in their anal-yst report...lol...
The yoga master asked his receptionist to sign me up for the yoga center's Xmas potluck dinner n to register me as bringing chicken rice. He really wanna poke fun of me. noob me wouldnt know how to prepare chicken rice...good thing that I changed it to jelly. Lol...Now my legs r also soft like jelly after 2 torture sessions =.= Jaslyn was saying that she lost 10 kg in 10 months at another yoga centre without any personal training! wow! no wonder the master says i'm fat =( i'm impressed by how she can do 6classes in a day...cos i can get cramps after only 2classes...n the max that i did was 3 consecutive classes...hot yoga is good for detoxing...i attended 4 parties within the space of a week before i left for Hong Kong =.= Michelle was wondering how come i put up this post instead of blogging abt my recent Hong Kong trip...well, it's much easier for me to write than to search thru the many pics i took ;p another prob that i'm currently facing now is that the hard disk on my laptop is full n i cant sync the pics in my iphone n camera onto my laptop...haiz...patience is a virtue ya...will try to post up some pics when i can find time ya...stay tuned ;p
Wanna share this interesting yahoo article by daniel wong (http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/singaporescene/why-singaporeans-hate-rich-people-why-shouldn-t-020715238.html)
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"Why Singaporeans hate rich people (and why we shouldn’t)
Recently, I was talking to a friend about Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg.
Midway through the conversation, my friend remarked that Zuckerberg is "filthy rich".
Filthy rich—an interesting choice of words, I thought.
Why is it that we don't refer to wealthy people as "wonderfully rich" or "marvelously rich" or "delightfully rich"?
They're always filthy rich. Underlying this word choice are emotions of bitterness and disdain.
Many of us have negative feelings toward the rich, but is this justified? And have we reflected on the specific reasons behind these emotions?
I've come up with five reasons for these negative feelings:
1. We're jealous of rich people.
Rich people seem to have so much more fun and excitement than us.
When we see them with their yachts and sports cars, smoking cigars and enjoying lavish dinners, we can't help but think that their lives are simply better than ours.
We don't like to admit it, but—at some level—we're jealous of them.
2. We don't think rich people deserve their wealth.
Billionaires like Bill Gates and Donald Trump are legendary for their superhuman work ethic. Like most rich people, they've put in countless hours of intense effort in order to amass their wealth.
We recognize that many rich people might be more hardworking than us, but they're also 50, 100 or 1000 times richer than us.
Do they also spend 50, 100 or 1,000 times more time at work than us? Probably not.
At a subconscious level, many of us believe that wealth should be closely correlated to the number of hours we work.
Given that the super-rich are disproportionately more well-off than us, it's not unexpected that we think they don't deserve their wealth.
We might even believe that they're rich just because they're lucky!
3. We believe that most of our problems would be solved, if only we had more money.
Your kids aren't getting a top-notch education? If only you had more money, you could send them for expensive private classes.
Your boss is overbearing and unreasonable? If only you had more money, you could just quit your job.
You're struggling to make ends meet? If only you had more money, you could be debt-free today.
We think that the rich don't face many problems in life, because it seems as though money would solve most of our problems.
After speaking to several multi-millionaires, however, I now realize that rich people have their own issues to deal with:
They wonder if people just want to get to know them because of their wealth.
They don't trust other people easily.
They worry about their wealth disappearing and about their businesses collapsing.
Their relationships often become more superficial.
Money can certainly solve some of our problems, but it also creates others.
4. We assume that rich people must have done something unethical in order to accumulate their wealth.
We frequently hear about scandals involving money laundering and Ponzi schemes, and about how some people have struck it rich through such unethical means.
I think that in general, though, rich people are ethical.
Sure, they're probably savvier than the average person when it comes to using tax laws to their advantage, but the vast majority of them don't carry out immoral business practices.
5. We think that we could do a better job than them.
When we criticize the CEO or the senior management of our company for making poor business decisions, or when we condemn ministers and high-ranking civil servants for their lack of foresight, we unwittingly start to believe that we're smarter and more capable than them.
Is this actually true? Probably not.
I'm not saying that there isn't room for continual improvement in all areas of society. But I know for a fact that, although I often pass judgment on people in positions of authority, I wouldn't be able to perform their roles better than them.
But the main reason we shouldn't hate rich people is…
…that we're trying to become just like them.
After going through all of those reasons why we dislike—or even hate—rich people, we need to admit to ourselves that we would very much like to be "filthy rich".
Isn't that why we buy lottery tickets, invest in stocks, do financial planning, and apply for better-paying jobs?
David or Goliath: Who do you want to be?
It's similar to the story of David and Goliath.
Whether it's in the arena of athletics, business or politics, we often root for the Davids of this world—the small fry, the little guy, the underdog.
We cheer when the underdog comes out on top, when he or she achieves astounding success against all odds.
And besides, all of us feel that in some way we're Davids, that life hasn't been all that kind to us.
The irony is that we all want to become Goliath. We want to be people of influence, power and wealth.
We admire David; we aspire to be Goliath.
And that's why we shouldn't hate rich people, no matter how many valid reasons we can think of for why it's justifiable that we do.
In closing…
I love this anonymous quote:
"With money, you can't win. If you focus on making it, you're materialistic. If you try to make it but don't, you're a loser. If you make a lot and keep it, you're a miser. If you make it and spend it, you're a spendthrift. If you don't care about making any, you're not ambitious. If you make a lot and still have it when you die, you're a fool."
Instead of focusing on accumulating wealth, let's focus on making a meaningful contribution.
After all, wealth is largely a reflection of how much value we're adding to the world.
Let's complain less and, instead, contribute more.
Let's pity ourselves less and, instead, prepare ourselves better to make the most of the opportunities we're presented with.
Let's compare ourselves with others less and, instead, commit ourselves to being the best that we can be—not better than other people.
Let's do it together."
Steve, one of the founders of PropertyGuru, during a recent sharing session that I attended
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