Age and Gender Do NOT Define Your Chance at Success!!!

Saw this inspiring article tt i wanna share with u =)
(http://sgentrepreneurs.com/retail/2011/08/08/age-and-gender-do-not-define-your-chance-at-success/)

Random thought from Eric: "Even God cannot pleases everyone. One prays for rain and the other prays for sun. What should God do? Or say soccer. Both teams pray to God that they win. Who is God going to answer? So if even God cannot pleases everyone, why should we try to please everyone? Lesson: The fear of man brings a snare! Good night everyone. :)"
N i spent a major part of my leechie life trying to please my leechie mum although i can never get any affirmation from her no matter how well i did...

"StreetSmart "When you keep going and doing ,Opportunities will open up for you... When you start complaining , Doors of oppotunities will start closing " It's our Choice !" ~ Elim Chew

"For those who had big losses from last year until now, let me share some solace with u so u feel less sad. Money is not everything. When u are down and out, look who is there for u and look at who avoid u or throw rocks into u when u fell into the well." ~ CNBC

"You are not a failure or crazy if you feel suicidal. It only means your pain is more than your resources for coping with pain."

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"The player
Why is he so irresistible? This seemingly charismatic guy makes you laugh with his sense of humor and has this uncanny ability to keep you hooked by just shooting the breeze. The smooth-talkers shower you with flattery and statements of love but they might have an agenda behind your back. He's probably using the same playbook to score other girls too."

Damn good advice from Nic (btw ladies, Nic is a hot hunk who happens to be a surgeon ;p btw, when i say tt a guy is hot...he's really HOT!!! ;p but too bad tt he's not here in sg...which is y i always ask...where did all the cutie guys go??? =.="):
"sms... is considered kind of online stuffs ... this is all about "social network" when come to human interaction they are failed!! NEVER EVER ask a man or someone you love "where is he?" "Who is he with?" "what is he doing?" one thing is you show no trust..another thing is showing you are airhead! why?! the person can always lie and you may not know the truth!"
"he is not low EQ if he doesnt know that you are fuming, but he chose IGNORANCE... chose not to know...couldnt be bothered"
"becoz he's chatting with all of you gals on the same topic. get it?! thats how men who FLIRT online"

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"Age and gender do not define your chance at success
August 8, 2011 by Terence LEE

At 23 years old, Elfaine Tan has accomplished multiple feats. As winner of Shell’s LiveWIRE “Most Promising Enterprise Award” in 2009 and having been named one of Her World Magazine’s 50 “Most Inspiring Women Under 40″, Elfaine is the proud founder of The Sample Store (formerly known as Fr3b.com), an on-line store that distributes and sells samples.

Elfaine believes that there are many roads to education and achieving success. After graduating with a Diploma in Biomedical Informatics & Engineering in 2008, she took an office job but left a few months later because she had a business idea and wanted to validate it.

Despite initial protests from her parents and the lack of a formal business education, Elfaine was determined to prove that her business model works. She cold-called marketers at their offices throughout the day and got rejected by them over and over again. But she never gave up. Her hard work paid off eventually, when she managed to arrange for meetings with her clients and convinced them to use the platform.

To date, The Sample Store has garnered a substantial pool of members and customers, worked with many established brands and has also distributed and sold countless samples.

No excuses to achieving success

For the tenacious entrepreneur who started her business early in life, there are no excuses to achieving success. “I don’t think age or gender would affect one’s success. What matters most is the right attitude and mindset,” she observed.

In fact, that there are some advantages to being a woman. Elfaine points out that, as “most marketers in my industry are women, this gives me an advantage as I can communicate with them better and even share some very personal thoughts with them.”

She noted that there may be certain drawbacks for a young female entrepreneur. She added, “Sometimes people get the wrong impression the first time they meet you. They usually think that we are either not experienced enough or doubt our credibility.”

On dealing with gender

There are challenges to working with both men and women. For example, Elfaine observed that women in leadership positions tend to be more demanding, straightforward and set higher expectations. But the jovial entrepreneur offers a tip, “ I find joy in befriending my clients, and this makes the communication process smoother when it comes setting goals and expectations with them.”

As for the men, she quipped that they “can be a little forgetful and tend to forget about some deadlines. So we need to be constantly remind them about deadlines, submission and meeting dates.”

Women like Tyra Banks, Oprah Winfrey, local entrepreneurs Nanz Chong Komo and Ms Elim Chew have inspired the young entrepreneur to be strong, determined and to develop a never-surrender-to-failure spirit.

“Like what Steve Jobs said, anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength,” she said.

At 23 years old, Elfaine has proved that success is not defined by age and gender, but by the right spirit and mindset.

You can check out The Sample Store or find out more about Elfaine through her blog."

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"Remind me I AM GOOD

I was recently told of an African tribe that does the most beautiful thing.

When someone does something hurtful and wrong, they take the person to the center of town, and the entire tribe comes and surrounds him. For two days they’ll tell the man every good thing he has ever done.

The tribe believes that every human being comes into the world as Good, each of us desiring safety, love, peace, happiness.

But sometimes in the pursuit of those things people make mistakes. The community sees misdeeds as a cry for help.

They band together for the sake of their fellow man to hold him up, to reconnect him with his true Nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth from which he'd temporarily been disconnected: "I AM GOOD"."

Posted at Dharma Comics by Leah Pearlman, founder of The Happiness Institute.

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"Recently some emails popped in asking me why is life such a struggle.

Well, nothing is perfect in this world so are your luck cycle and events that take place. No one is perfect too.

Sometimes the downs are so distressing that its make you see and feel nothing else. Even good times can be marred by some minor incident. However, there are always little deeds you can do for yourself to make things br...ighter. The simplest you can do is choosing to focus your energy on things that make you happy and feel good. This not only applies to event happening to you but to the people you meet and see too. After all what are the things that does not involve people. You can focus to see the better side of a person. This does not necessary mean you're hereby blinded by the person fault and short coming. Being aware and on the other hand putting all your energy into a bad situation or the person imperfection will make you become critical and start the blame game. Be aware but see the good in others. See the good things around you!

There is no one's life that is without a struggle. But there will be happy times too. It is the circle of life.

What I do during bad time? I'm not magician nor a witch that can make bad thing go away. I just buy my favorite chocolate ice-cream to eat when I feel sad." ~ BaziChic

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Interesting Quotes:

“I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” ~ Jimmy Dean

"Start today with a clean slate. Almost all your unhappiness in life comes from your tendency to blame someone else for something." ~ Brian Tracy

"Life is a movie n u're the director. Change the script, location or actors if nd be. Coz if it turns out bad, u only hav yrself to blame."

"All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become." ~ Buddha

"Trust is never a given nor a gift. Earn it or lose it."

“Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.” ~ Dr. Joyce Brothers

“Success is how high you bounce when you hit the bottom.” ~ General George S. Patton

“To believe in yourself and to follow your dreams, to have goals in life and a drive to succeed, and to surround yourself with the things and the people that make you happy - this is success!” ~ Sasha Azevedo

"Find your way out of whatever fear, worry, sadness, guilt, anger or anxiety you may be carrying. It's a heavy load you're lugging around & making you unhappy, uncomfortable & far less powerful than you really are. Give it up, let it go, release it, surrender it simply through the power of intention alone. Do it daily till you feel at EASE with yourself & FREE!" ~ Helen Lee

"Power of Passion drives a person to achieve results for what they love to Do and Believe in! Creating the biggest change!" ~ Elim Chew

"I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed." ~ Michael Jordan

"My mind tells me to give up but my heart won't let me."

"Giving up doesn't mean you're a quitter, it just means whatever you're fighting for is no longer worth the fight."

"The moment u think of giving up, think of a reason why u held so long.. Do or die is an old saying; do it before you die is the new one."