A FATHER'S RULES FOR FINDING FULFILLMENT

Tears rolled down my leechie face as i read the following...:'(

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"A FATHER'S RULES FOR FINDING FULFILLMENT

Be courteous, be punctual, always say please and thank you, and be sure to hold your knife and fork properly. Others take their cue on how to treat you from your manners.

Be kind, considerate and compassionate when others are in trouble, even if you have problems of your own. Others will admire your selflessness and will help you in due course.

Show moral courage. Do what is right, even if that makes you unpopular. I always thought it important to be able to look at myself in the shaving mirror every morning and not feel guilt or remorse. I depart this world with a pretty clear conscience.

Show humility. Stand your ground but pause to reflect on what the other side are saying, and back off when you know you are wrong. Never worry about losing face. That only happens when you are pig-headed.

Learn from your mistakes. You will make plenty so use them as a learning tool. If you keep making the same mistake or run into a problem, you’re doing something wrong.

Avoid disparaging someone to a third party; it is only you who will look bad. If you have a problem with someone, tell them face to face.

Hold fire! If someone crosses you, don’t react immediately. Once you say something it can never be taken back, and most people deserve a second chance.

Have fun. If this involves taking risks, so be it. If you get caught, hold your hands up.

Give to charity and help those who are less fortunate than yourselves: it’s easy and so rewarding.

Always look on the upside! The glass is half full, never half empty. Every adversity has a silver lining if you seek it out.

Make it your instinct always to say ‘yes’. Look for reasons to do something, not reasons to say no. Your friends will cherish you for that.

Be canny: you will get more of what you want if you can give someone more of what they desire. Compromise can be king.

Always accept a party invitation. You may not want to go, but they want you there. Show them courtesy and respect.

Never ever let a friend down. I would bury bodies for my friends, if they asked me to . . . which is why I have chosen them carefully.

Always tip for good service. It shows respect. But never reward poor service. Poor service is insulting.

Always treat those you meet as your social equal, whether they are above or below your station in life. For those above you, show due deference, but don’t be a sycophant.

Always respect age, as age equals wisdom.

Be prepared to put the interests of your sibling first.

Be proud of who you are and where you come from, but open your mind to other cultures and languages. When you begin to travel (as I hope you will), you’ll learn that your place in the world is both vital and insignificant. Don’t get too big for your breeches.

Be ambitious, but not nakedly so. Be prepared to back your assertions with craftsmanship and hard work.

Live every day to its full: do something that makes you smile or laugh, and avoid procrastination.

Give of your best at school. Some teachers forget that pupils need incentives. So if your teacher doesn’t give you one, devise your own.

Always pay the most you can afford. Never skimp on hotels, clothing, shoes, make-up or jewellery. But always look for a deal. You get what you pay for.

Never give up! My two little soldiers have no dad, but you are brave, big-hearted, fit and strong. You are also loved by an immensely kind and supportive team of family and friends. You make your own good fortune, my children, so battle on.

Never feel sorry for yourself, or at least don’t do it for long. Crying doesn’t make things better.

Look after your body and it will look after you.

Learn a language, or at least try. Never engage a person abroad in conversation without first greeting them in their own language; by all means ask if they speak English!

And finally, cherish your mother, and take very good care of her.

I love you both with all my heart.
Daddy x
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A father's message from beyond the grave
Ever wondered what it is like to have Death staring straight in your eyes? Is there anything you will like to do or change before you draw your last breath? What if you have a family with young children and perhaps some precious time left? What would you do?

Here’s a sad but true story to be shared, about a loving dad and husband, who did what he could in the little time he was left for his family. From their country cottage filled with memories of Mandy Flanagan’s late husband Paul, she shared with us their story.

Paul, a teacher, who died of cancer at the age of 45 in November 2009, passionately believed his children, Thomas and Lucy, should have more than just fading photographs to remember him by. For the children were only five and one-and-half years old at the time of his passing. “There was nothing more important to Paul than being the best father he could be,” says Mandy.

“When he knew he was dying, there was no time for self-pity. He became absolutely focused on doing whatever he could to continue being a good dad to them throughout the years, even though he wouldn’t be here in person.”

Amongst his preparation included letters, filmed messages, future birthday presents and his personal chest of favorite books. “Each book is accompanied by a note to Thomas and Lucy explaining why Paul loved it, and how much he hopes they will too when they’re old enough to read it,” explains Mandy.

But perhaps all these gifts pales in comparison to a document titled “On finding fulfillment”, accidentally discovered on his laptop by Mandy. “I opened it and, with tears rolling down my cheeks, I discovered his bullet-pointed code to living a good and happy life,” says Mandy. And this list of 28 instructions was the very way Paul lived his life.

Addressing his children who were too young to understand the tragedy that was unfolding, Paul writes, ”In these last few weeks, following my terminal diagnosis, I have searched my soul and heart to find ways in which I can reach out to you as you grow up.

“I’ve been thinking about the matters in life that are important, and the values and aspirations that make people happy and successful. In my view, and you may well have your own ideas by now, the formula is pretty simple.

“The three most important virtues are: Loyalty, integrity and moral courage. If you aspire, friends will respect you, employers will retain you, and your father will be immensely proud of you. I am therefore giving you several pieces of advice. These are the principles on which I have tried to build my life and they are exactly those that I would have encouraged you to embrace, had I been able to.” “I love you very much. Never forget that.”

“He also wrote that they should never give up, and he certainly never did. He fought so bravely, so courageously, right to the end.”

Having been first diagnosed with skin cancer in 2004, where a birthmark on his chest had become malignant. The cancer was removed in November that year when their son Thomas was only a few months old. And after years of regular follow-ups, he was given the all clear in January 2008 when Mandy was expecting Lucy.

However a swelling that appears in May 2008 proved the cancer had spread to his lymph glands in his arms and neck shortly after. Even surgery and radiotherapy was not able to halt its progression. By March 2009, the cancer had spread to his brain and his condition was terminal.

“He never pitied himself,” says Mandy. “The diagnosis, and perhaps the drugs he was on, triggered a sort of mania. He suddenly had so much energy. While I lay awake upstairs worrying, Paul would work through the nights, determined to get his affairs in order.”

Having meticulously organized the family finances, arranged his own funeral, buying presents for their children, their dining room was soon filled piles of shoeboxes filled with paperwork, hand-written letters and DVD messages for his family and friends.

With Lucy christened last summer, she now has one godmother and nine godfathers. “He wanted his friends to have a permanent tie to his family, I think,” says Mandy. “And if Lucy couldn’t have her father, a fantastic team of godfathers was the very least she deserved.”

With his passing at home, some eight months after his terminal diagnosis, Mandy was certain he’ll be able to rest peacefully knowing that he had left the best legacy any father could. “When some people are told they have just a few months to live, they decide their life won’t be complete until they’ve bungee-jumped off Sydney Harbor Bridge or seen the Grand Canyon. But that wasn’t Paul. All that was important to him was right here. He lived and died by his own rules, and I know he had found his fulfillment.”

We all have a finite amount of time in this world, some less than others. And it is not the amount of time, rather how we use it which truly matters. Ever so often we get absorbed by our daily rat race and tend to take our loved ones for granted. Perhaps it is time we slow down and re-examine ourselves before it is too late."

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Interesting Quotes:

"Never give up on something that you can't go a day without thinking about." ~ Merry

"If you never chase what you want, you'll never get it. If you never ask, the answer is always no. If you never step forward, you'll always be in the same place"

“Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.” ~ Jack Canfield

‎"By thought, the thing you want is brought to you. By action, you receive it" ~ Wallace D Wattles

“It is important to remember that sometimes, what you don’t do is more telling than what you actually do.”

"Forgiveness is a gift to myself, I forgive, and I set myself free." ~ Louise L. Hay

"The words one uses if not mindful, can be like the sharp edge of a sword. It is imperative to use positive words of affirmation, encouragement, praise and love."

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.” ~ Marie Curie

"The women of today are the thoughts of their mothers and grandmothers, embodied, and made alive. They are active, capable, determined and bound to win. They have one thousand generations back of them ... Millions of women, dead and gone are speaking through us today." ~ Christie

"Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much of life. So aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something." ~ Henry David Thoreau, naturalist and author (1817-1862)

"Piece of advice: Next time you're gossiping about me, if you don't have the strength to tell me in my face, at least make sure I'm not right behind you."

"When can you do it your way? It’s simple. When you’re rich, you can do it your way, and not one day before. You see, it’s very simple. The road to gold has already been paved for you. People are doing it. What you do is model successful people. Do what they teach you to do." ~ Harv

"In the end, there’s nothing—absolutely nothing—that says you can’t be rich and empathetic, rich and caring, rich and fulfilled by a sense of connection to anyone and everyone whether they’re rich or not. If that’s who you are now, you’re just going to be more of that with a bigger bank account." ~ Harv

"It’s easy to say all this. “Be bigger than your problems. Grow.” It’s easy to talk about it. One of my favorite sayings in the world is, “Talk is cheap.” What does that mean? It means that bottom line, what you say means nothing. What you do in real life and the real world means everything.
Yes or Yes?" ~ Harv

"Let me give you two motivations that I recommend that you really have a look at as your motivation for money.
Number one is this. Joy! Loving what you do! I love what I do and the money is the result. Good or good?
And the other one is coming from a sense of Purpose! Your contribution! Again money is the result of you contributing your gifts to the world and that’s it." ~ Harv

"Dream brings Vision , Vision brings Hope , Hope Brings Faith for us to Fulfill our Dream!" ~ Elim Chew

"Love is patient,love is kind .It does not envy,it does not boast,it is not self seeking ,it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs ,it always Protects,always trust ,always hopes,alway perseveres"

"An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality." ~ Brian Tracy

‎"Your habits determine your outcomes. Successful people don't just drift to the top. Getting there requires focused action, personal discipline and lots of energy every day to make things happen" ~ Jack Canfield

"I made a resolve that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. " ~ KFC founder Colonel Sanders, on the secret recipe to Business Mastery and Success

‎"A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason." ~ J. P. Morgan

"If u r influential to the ppl around u, add value to their life, character etc, not stepping ppl down. Whatever goes around will come around."

"In the world of entrepreneurs, you don’t need a college education. You need a proper education." ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"When Dreams come true ! It's Amazing ! Start Dreaming and work towards fulfilling your dreams" ~ Elim Chew

"Be proactive and rise to challenges. Take advantage of opportunities by taking on new responsibilities and move out of your comfort zone."

“I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude. It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circumstances, or my position.” ~ Charles R. Swindoll

"Rich and successful people focus on helping people. Poor and unsuccessful people focus on selling product. Why do you do what you do? Be honest. Let me tell you this. If it’s strictly for the money, you’re never going to get truly rich. The greatest secret to being rich and happy is to make your fortune by making a difference in people’s lives." ~ Harv

‎"Sit at ease with yourself. That's the greatest preparation for external success. The world comes to you, the universe serves you & delivers what your heart & soul desire to your doorstep. There is nothing rushed or frantic about your approach. There is nowhere to go, nothing to do but be who you really are, your own magnificent self. Shift from being your fearful, doubt-ridden self & you'll see!" ~ Helen Lee

"Liken onto jade found in rocks. A skilled jeweler will polish it after unearthing it, to present its beauty."

"Its a scary thing. We may have many FRIENDS but at the end of the day? who will really be here for me?"

"Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got." ~ Sophia Loren

"Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver." ~ Barbara de Angelis

"If stock market experts were so expert, they would be buying stock, not selling advice." ~ Norman R. Augustine

“What appears to be the end of the road may simply be a bend in the road.” ~ Robert H. Schuller

"God does not deem you to be lucky or unlucky... you’re mindset does." ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?.” ~ James Allen

"About 90% of the people who have gained wealth did not have that wealth when they were born."

"One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree.
"Which road do I take?" she asked.
"Where do you want to go?" was his response.
"I don't know," Alice answered.
"Then," said the cat, "it doesn't matter." ~ Lewis Carroll
We must be clear of the goals we set, or we will have a hard time reaching it."

"I NEED A HUG !!!! To give me a hug please click "Like" under this post, then copy and share to your status. I believe that I know who will want to hug me, and those who won't ! Remember that once you click on "Like", you must repost this status on your wall. Sure will be interesting to see how many of my friends will give me a hug by liking this post. (Don't be shy, hugs are great!) I needed this post all day! :("

"Missing someone isn't easy, but having someone to miss is wonderful, and even better is the anticipation and excitement of getting to see them again."

"Loving someone doesn't need a reason. If u can explain why u love someone, it's called " LIKE " and if u cannot explain, its simply called " LOVE " ♥ ♥"

"等待快乐，不如及时行乐。happiness is not an end,be happy always"\

"永远不要跟别人比幸运，我从来没想过我比别人幸运，我也许比他们更有毅力，在最困难的时候，他们熬不住了，我可以多熬一秒钟、两秒钟。" ~ 马云

"哭泣的強者……惡劣的環境只會讓強者更強,珍惜你的對手,因為有他的存在,才會讓你不斷進步,不要把哭泣當作脆弱的標籤,當你受傷的時候,哭泣是一種精神的良藥,能讓重振精神面對生活,人需要堅強也需要釋放……"

"看穿但不说穿，很多事情，只要自己心里有数就好了，没必要说出来..."

"听了一则。。。感觉有些冷。。人为什么不懂得珍惜，为何要等到失去，一发不可收拾的地步才懂珍惜，，
可能这就是人吧！为何要做伤害别人的事？
其实，我想他们本身应该知道的。。
希望迷途的你，我，他。。不要一失足成千古恨。。好好对待爱你的人！"

"人不可以把錢帶進棺材，但錢可以把人帶進棺材。"

"钱，可以慢慢赚啦！你家有钱是你的事，两个人在一起如果需要钱来做主的话，不如分手更好啦 ~ ~ 没钱现在开始慢慢赚，慢慢存咯 ~ ~"

"個人覺得其實做女人呢，太聰明都未必係一件好事嚟嘅，因為普通啲嘅男人覺得你高高在上，遙不可及，而聰明嘅男人可能會視你為對手，又係唔敢好明顯咁追你，可能驚你同佢玩愛情遊戲等等。聰明嘅人有時候會諗得比普通啲人多好多，淨係因為聰明所以時常會將「簡單複雜化」。所謂「蠢啲嘅人喜歡給心，所以到最後得到愛；聰明嘅人喜歡猜心，所以到最後得唔到愛」。有時真係覺得做女人應有適當嘅「聰明糊塗心」好啲，難得糊塗可能都係好事嚟嘅。"

"其實想一想，一個人有一個人的自由，二個人有二個人的幸福，愛不一定單獨給一個在乎妳的人，也可以分享給親朋好友。愛，單獨給一個在乎妳或者你在乎的人似乎有點可惜，也有點浪費。因為如果不幸分手了，即便哪個人還在乎妳，最後也只能說我們當好朋友吧。但是朋友，親人還可以鼓勵妳，安慰妳，也可以做妳的後盾。其實，想一想就會知道什麼才是最值得的啦！"

"缘份要捉住,而不计算.爱情想红酒一样,越旧越纯.如可以我会真惜爱情"

"可愛
我穿高跟鞋穿累了，你會背我走。
我鞋带鬆了，你来幫我綁。
我懒惰吃饭，你来喂我。
我想結婚，你来娶我。
我想睡觉，你来抱抱我。
我生氣，你来哄我。
我想白頭携老，你来陪我。
我要天长，你陪我到地久。
我走了，天涯海角你也會來找我。
我愛你，你也愛我。"

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Update:

Btw, it was my first time going to the polls...ya manz, i finally got to vote for the v.first time in my entire leechie life! i was soooooooo excited tt i almost exit without casting my vote...lol ;p

Went for health screening...again, it was hard to locate my invisible n notti vein...an yearly affair...the blood kinda refused to flow out too >.<" brought my leechie mum for facial...i was really amused by the therapist who seemed rather amused with how firm my skin is...she even pressed my cheeks...lol...perhaps she doesnt have any idea of the good stuff tt i put on my leechie face...lol ;p

Was watching the Man U rout of Arse-nal...8-2...goals galore...what more can any soccer fan ask for? ;p btw, i really feel embarrassed for Arse-nal...i really do ;p brought work home to do this long wkend...brought my parents to Lao Beijing (by Tung Lok group) for dinner juz now...simply lurve their yummy sweet n sour signature prawns ♥

Yummy sweet n sour signature prawns!


Spicy chicken


Specialty Jade tofu with crab meat n veggie n green beans o.O