Lychees From Leechie: The One That Got Away

Came across this meaningful article tt i wanna share with all of u...gotta clarify tt i didnt write this article...cos some blog followers thought tt i'm the one who wrote it o.O

The One That Got Away

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people.
Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something.

There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with... and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.

There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing.

It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance. How often have you gone through it without even realizing it?

When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready and it shows.

It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready.

It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived.

And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come.

Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is.

The biggest "WHAT IF?" you'll have in your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us.

But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it.

Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In which case it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you do if it's not yet too late?

Simple...find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere.

You'd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference.

If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away."
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Amused with these pics tt i saw ;p

Leechie Musings:

Some guys' lies r insulting my intelligence...mayb they r too used to dating dumbo bimbos? -.-"

How can u trust a person who has been lying to u right from the start? -.-" som ppl thought tt they r professional liars n no one could telling tt they r lying...well, there r juz too many loopholes in those webs of lies...but i'm too smartie for him ler =.=" someone who isnt worth it today wont b worth it 1 yr or 10 yrs from now! so let the other lady suffer bah...lol ;p n guess what? i found out somthg today which i think i shldnt...juz based on my brains...amused...lol ;p really glad tt what i figured out falls perfectly in place n i'm spared of all possible future tortures =)
thx all my lucky stars tt i'm spared of all those possible crappy scenarios!!! my deepest condolences for the unfortunate other lady...lol ;p

Saw rod's fb status "All I want is to find a nice person to hang out with until I drop dead. Not a lot to ask." me too...i also wanna someone to hang out with until i drop dead...n i'm not asking a lot ya =.= i'm juz a simple gal who wanna b loved by a simple guy...tt's all...simple right? but y is it tt such a simple thing can b so hard eh? haiz =.=

Btw, saw this interesting comment abt men n unfaithfulness ---> "this lady commented on how "if man can be trusted for faithfulness. Pigs can climb trees" n her male friend actually praised her smart" o.O" lol...faithfulness...is this supposed to b such a rare virtue these days? =.= "Never lie to e person u love. U might think lying will protect them from harm but when they know e truth, u r e one who harm them most." everyone likes to look at pretty objects...but the thing is there's a distinct difference between appreciation n taking action to hav affairs -.-" hmmm, can we still hav the confidence to trust someone who has been unfaithful previously? =.= trust is a fragile thing...there r many guys with roving eyes these days -.-" although past performance is not indicative of future performance...but past indiscretion left a BIG question mark over the future? -.-" there r many things in life which r so unpredictable...maybe someone can tell u tt he'll be faithful...but how can he guarantee tt? some guys juz love to love many women...perhaps these many women can help to mask any insecurity issues tt they may hav? =.=

N i was thinking abt jeff's comments --->
"To My Friends Who Are STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be, and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it. If that person doesnt worth it now, it's not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now." sad fact but how true...haiz...

"男人不坏，女人不爱" is tt y nice gals r atttracted to bad boys? my bro is under the impression tt leechie kenna "gong tao" or some charm n asks y am i attracted to bad boys instead of nerdy, geeky types? -.-"

"現在我對你很好、很好、很好，你不需要、你無所謂、你不在乎，你不珍惜，

當某天，你被傷害，想起我，你就會明白了。"

Rem tt "Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option"!!!

Gotta rem ---> "Leaving you was probably the biggest mistake they will ever make. Let them dwell on it, you move on!" n "I can find a partner who will appreciate me the way I am and stop wasting time on a doomed relationship."

V.sensible advice from J. ---> "people are in general selfish. that should include you and me. so make yourself happy. if you are happy being with someone nothing else matters. if you're not, it's time to move on. i guess it's harder to move on if you have nothing to move on to.. but given your active social life i doubt that is the case. the world is your oyster as they say. but lying is a character flaw, no man or woman should have to succumb to it."

An example of a tacky pickup line ---> "Hi leechie
I am yr cousin lychee" =.="

Btw, i met a guy using a pink color mobile phone...n he actually offered it to me...v.much to my amusement o.O" i was wearing a pretty pink dress n he said tt leechie looks like a cosplay-er! o.O think there r many guys interested in cosplay these days eh? o.O

"Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry."
y am i so silly to put myself thru all these tortures? -.-"

V.practical advice ---> "Time is what you see on your watch. It's not medicine and it can't heal anything. You can however, try to move on and let new experiences replace the old ones. Do not listen to cliche quotes as they serves absolutely no purpose except false hopes and detachment from reality."
Let's move on ---> Next please! Next in the queue please!

"幸福是靠自己去爭取的~不管是友情或愛情~~錯過了就沒有了..." but "有些事情你现在不必问,有些人你永远不必等..." haiz -.-"

Dont call me materialistic...i'm purely capitalistic!!! ;p

Dont say tt i'm high maintenance...it's juz tt everyone's definitions of luxury n basic necesities r different! o.O"

Some american stylist said tt leechie resembles a japanese clown...well, i would rather be clownish than boring =.=" at least, i'm the one n only leechie...i'm unique...it's ur problem if u have a problem with that...not mine =.="

Som ppl dont even bother to look at themselves in the mirrors first before criticizing others...lol...for some stuff, there is always plastic surgery...but for some stuff...even the best plastic surgeons cant help...lol ;p oops...did i say the wrong thing? gosh...i think leechie drank some acid juz now...lol ;p

Update:

Thanks Daniel tt leechie could make it to the Loreal Private sales! this is the first time tt leechie has been to one! lotsa good deals there...keke...spent $400+ there yest...n i sneaked in near closing again today to grab some stuff...thx the nice n pretty lady cashier for waiting for a leechie =) spent another $100+...i managed to get some YSL powder foundation, mascaras, eyeliner, lippie, loose powder, brush, etc...lancome kabuki brush...a few bottles of LRP sunblock (this was the main thing tt i was looking for in this sale...so i was really happy to be able to get them...keke ;p)...vichy anti-aging essence (was told tt the price markdown is alot)...skinceuticals serum...LRP hair tonic...Redken all curls shampoo...Keratase masks, leave-in conditioner, shampoos in sample size (the first time tt i've seen the sample sizes at Loreal sales...v.cutie o.O)...Keratase hair brush...Shu Uemura eyeshadow stick...didnt manage to get any Kiehl's products though cos i wasnt sure what to get...happy with all my purchases =) thx all the loreal staff for being so helpful n their kind recommendations of lotsa gd stuff n great deals there! =)

Btw, leechie also went to Luxasia sales late last month...plenty of good deals there =) spent abt $700 there...n my fren spent $1.8k in less than an hour! o.O but i still prefer last year's sale venue...cos there wasnt any air-con this time round n all the different brands were all scattered all ovr the place...v.hard to look for the individual brands...n many stuff were already sold out by the time i found the brands tt i'm interested in...esp rmk n ipsa =.=" i wanted to get rmk loose powder...but there was none when i got there...actually v.few rmk items were left...likewise for ipsa -.-" but i got quite alot of lancaster stuff...esp skincare n cosmetics =) btw, i bot sjp's covet fragrance...a v.small n cute 15ml bottle...initially, i was thinking tt i wanna others to covet what i have...but now, i'm asking myself...even if others covet what i have...would i still be happy? how to be truly happy? o.O
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Interesting Quotes:

"Men love what they are attracted to, while women are attracted to what they love."

"Never lie to e person u love. U might think lying will protect them frm harm but when they know e truth, u r e one who harm them most."

"You can forgive the liar, but can you ever forget the lie?"

"Relationship just need two wonderful people; one who can trust and one who can understand." ~ Adora Whitney Rosella

‎"A lie is a lie even if everyone believes it. The truth is the truth even if nobody believes it."

"Do not lose the trust of a person, once is lost, is gone."

"A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other...Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever" ~ Dave Matthews

"An "ex" is called an "ex" because it’s an example of what you shouldn’t have again in the future."

"You'll never find the right person if you don't let go of the wrong one."

"Do what needs to be done. Don't wait.
Love, care and express to someone that you have not done so.
Do not procrastinate. Live life with no regrets. ♥"

"All men and women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner." ~ John Gray ♥ ♥ ♥

"No fate is worse than a life without a love."

"Love is always a mystery.
it can't be explained,
it can't be proven.
yet fools always looking for this feeling of loving and being loved."

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down." ~ Oprah Winfrey

"The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you that you love, well, that's just fabulous." ~ Carrie Bradshaw

You really shouldn't say "I love you" unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget. ~ 8-year-old named Jessica

“The heart is the only broken instrument that works.”

"No matter what happen in life, I will always tell my partner that loving someone is not to let her worry, so you need not worry for me~ If I can't even take care of myself, how could I take care of you for the rest of my life?" ~ Mike

"The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!"

"Enemies stab you at the back. Friends stab you at the front. Boyfriend stabs you at the heart. Only BFFS poke you with finger."

"How to impress a Girl: RESPECT her. LOVE her. PROTECT her. CARE for her. - How to impress a boy: Just SMILE. THE END"

"Some say U don't know wat u have until u lose it but the fact is u always know wat u have, u just never thought u would lose it" ~ Steph

"It’s what you do for the people you say you love that matters."

"THE WORST DECEPTION: A guy can make you think he loves you, but he really doesn't.
A girl can make you think she doesn't love you, but she really does :))"

"Dont search for someone who will make your heart whole, Instead be with someone who will never let you feel broken by all means ♥"

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." ~ Rumi

"Life is like a multiple choice question sometimes the choices confuses you, not the question itself :)"

"You should never assume that somebody loves you by only seeing their sweetness sometimes we shall believe in the fact that some people are BIG TIME flirts :)"

"No one can ever fill your space in my heart, Because this heart only beats for you :)"

"Do you know that the worst way that you'll miss a person? Its when you're just right beside me, Yet i know I can never have you :D"

"One of the worst way to miss someone is to be in a room full of people and yet u feel lonely because the only person you want to see and long to be is not there.."

"Forget the past that made you cry & focus on your present that completes your life.."

"I would never let go if i can still hold on and i would never hold back once i've decided to let go."

"Do what makes you happy. Be with who makes you smile, laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live." ~ Star Lovett

"A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave" ~ Paulo Coelho

‎"It only takes a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone & a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone."

"Love is an ACTION. When you can't feel the love with someone, love the person again. And the feelings of love will return." ~ Eric

"現在我對你很好、很好、很好，你不需要、你無所謂、你不在乎，你不珍惜，

當某天，你被傷害，想起我，你就會明白了。"

"Do not beg anyone who has left you to come back, for your destiny is never tied to anyone that left." ~ Chels L Rouqin

"Avoiding is the worst treatment to the person who cares for u."

"Love is a verb, not a noun. So DO it, go love somebody or something... Don't seek it, because it doesn't exist..."

"Nice people tend not to be good-looking, good-looking people tend not to be nice, good-looking nice people tend to be already married, & good-looking nice unmarried people tend to be controversial." ~ Robin

"Everyone is shy --- it is the inborn modesty that makes us able to live in harmony with other creatures and our fellows. Achievement comes not by denying shyness but, occasionally, by setting it aside and letting pride and perspiration come first."

"Marrying a man is like buying something you've been admiring for a long time in a shop window. You may love it when you get it home, but it doesn't always go with everything else in the house." ~ Jean Kerr

"Love is when you shed a tear and still want him, it's when he ignores you and you still love him, it's when he loves another girl but you still smile and say I'm happy for you, when all you really do is cry."

"If you can't be 100% committed to the relationship, do not even start."

"Time is what you see on your watch. It's not medicine and it can't heal anything. You can however, try to move on and let new experiences replace the old ones. Do not listen to cliche quotes as they serves absolutely no purpose except false hopes and detachment from reality." ~ Michael

"Don't worry about people in your past there's a reason they didnt make it in your future."

"There’s a BIG difference between: who we love, who we settle for, and who we're meant for."

"Why dwell on the past when the future is waiting for you! Get a grip of your life, move on!"

"Never, never, never give up." ~ Winston Churchill

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Do u believe in love at first sight? ;p
Btw, the male lead is the same guy in my sassy gal! o.O"